I think it would a universal ‘yes’ if I asked this question to a large audience. We all want to feel happy and uplifted and full of energy in our day. We would like for things not to effect us as much and have that bounce in our step wherever we go.
We have all been in the situation where you start speaking to someone or are in the company of someone whose energy makes you feel off, like they have an aura hanging over them which changes your mood for the negative. What do you do?
It is right we all have those days which seem just awful or moments when our energy feels low.
“The things you do either give you energy or drain you. Choose wisely.” Anonymous
We need to “Take responsibility for the energy you bring.” Anonymous
Scientists reveal that positive thinking is much more than just being happy and having a positive attitude. Positive thoughts create real value in your life and help you shape your reality, heal you from within and build incredible skills that will propel you towards your bigger goals.
Positive Emotion effects the present and the future. They signal flourishing and helps to achieve growth and wellbeing over time.
You may find it difficult to keep hold of the positive vibe. Do not worry, here are some tips to help you.
You cannot change someone which are not aware of. Take a pen and paper and list down your negative thoughts and emotions. These thoughts narrow your perspective rather than widen it.
These can be sometimes led to survival instincts and fear of harm, which leads to you to shut down and narrow your options.
You should not beat yourself up about this negativity as it will lead to it gaining momentum. it is how we are built from a primal perspective.
Do not dwell on things.
Do not rehash it more than you need to as this continues to give the situation energy.
Find the positive lessons, blessings and near misses which may have happened if a different path may have been taken (this may take time).
- Visualise the good scenarios.
What is the point of thinking of the worst case scenarios?
You can trick your mind into positivity.
What would visualising the best scenario do for you?
Focus on the solution rather than the problem.
- Stop Continuously Venting
We all need to speak out about our feelings, whats going on, what annoys us and have a little vent about things that have gone wrong. Do it and then draw a line. Consistently venting, puts you back to square one rather than resolving the issue at hand or creating new pathways for better.
Take this beautiful cold season that we are in, where the virus’ are rife. ‘Goodness what a dose I have, I am so sick, I feel like I am dying, not sure how I will even get through the week’. Yes vocalise you are not well, now lets set the energy on getting you better. ‘I am definitely going to start taking more supplements and putting more nutrient food into my diet and getting some early nights’.
Not enjoying your job? You are not appreciated at home? ‘ I am going to look for a better job which ignites my passion. My boss has taught me what I do not like and what I will start looking out for in the future.’
Nobody appreciates me at home – ‘I am going to start putting aside time for myself where I give myself, my own pat on the back’. ‘ I will make a list of my to do’s and tick them off and that will be a great way of showing myself how much of a difference I make’
There is evidence based research is showing quantifiable improvements in life when people use journaling as a tool for stress reduction, personal development, and increased self-esteem.
There are a whole list of benefits of journaling, when journal you raise your vibration by simply thinking about those positive experiences. Remember, that your subconscious mind doesn’t make a difference between actual reality and imaginary. What you imagine is as real as what you perceive with your 5 senses.
Journaling literally allows you to repeat and relive your favorite experiences.
You can also help to problem solve, deal with uncertainty and ambiguity by vocalising this through words.
Acknowledge blessings in your life and write down at least 5 things that you are grateful for every day.
- Surround Yourself with Laughter and Not Gossip
“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”
~ Eleanor Roosevelt
Everything is energy, do not place your focus on judging others. Protect Your Energy. Do not lower your vibrations.
Surround yourself with people/ friends who can energise you. If you are with a family or friends which start gossiping and you cannot avoid, try to change the course.
Let laughter be your medicine. Laughter triggers the body’s natural feel-good chemicals, which helps to boost your body’s overall wellbeing.
Surround yourself with upbeat people who make you laugh. Laugh as often as you can remember, create ways to laugh, be light hearted.